Him > Me

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He must become greater and greater, and I must become less and less.
John 3:30


Jesus said that John the Baptist that he was the greatest man ever born! How would you like that on your resume? Can you imagine that Jesus, the Lord was your numero uno on your resume?


John had his own disciples. He had rockstar status as a preacher. Thousands of folks followed him before Jesus came on the earthly scene. But when asked if he was the promised Messiah, his simple answer was NO! When asked of his disciples what they should do with this Jesus that is baptizing more than him, his simple answer was that Jesus is the Lamb of God, He has come to take away the sins of the world. To be certain that he was clearly understood, he said that he (John) was not worthy to tie Jesus’ sandals. And then the weightiest, most powerful statement was stated with great authority:

“He must become greater and greater, and I must become less and less.” JOHN 3

Every time that I read this passage, I am reminded that it is a blessing and a privilege to be a small part of the Divine’s plan to redeem this broken world. It isn’t a duty, it is pure joy. And then I start to think of the many ways that I might become less and He becomes more in my life. Ask yourself how you might be a part of lessening yourself and allowing the Lord to increase? Here are a few of mine:

  • Consistently reading His Word.
  • Constantly inviting the Lord to direct my decisions.
  • Choosing to ask for wisdom rather than asking for God to bless my decisions.
  • Take the “blessed are” statements in the Beatitudes and significantly let them drive my interactions with others.
  • Look in the mirror with a passionate desire to allow the Lord to humble me and empty me of me.
  • Seek opportunities to be at peace and create an atmosphere of peace.
  • Live in the assurance that the Divine goes before me.
  • Operate hour by hour in the courage and strength that He promises to infuse me with.
  • To speak more openly and frequently about the things of God, and less about me.

There are hundreds of other ways to engage this world with less of me and more of Him. What might your list look like?

–AChuck 

Show & Tell

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[Love] does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; 1 Corinthians 13:5


SHOW & TELL: We may not live what we say we believe, but we will inevitably live what we truly believe.


To truly understand the power of serving others, we must understand the root and motivation behind it. In Mark 10:43, Jesus is crystal clear about leadership and greatness. He said, whoever wants to become great among you must be your servant.

Just like a children’s classroom, we “show and tell” our willingness to love others to the degree that we naturally serve them. I walked to the front of my class as a fourth-grade boy carrying a rock that had been carved out of centuries of water falling in the Antarctic. It was a very cool “show and tell.” But that rock didn’t talk, serve, love or impact anybody. It didn’t call someone to action. It simply was a rock! But I do recall the first couple that I had the privilege of leading to Christ. I fell in love with a couple that knew nothing of Jesus and in a matter of twenty minutes, they went from knowing nothing of faith to inviting Jesus into their hearts. That’s a powerful “show and tell.”

When we connect the verse above, we discover that as we love, we will serve. Service without love can be good, but service [because we love] is a powerful experience. This verse is talking about what love does. If we really love others, not just in words but in action, it will show. As a matter of fact, if we love the Divine, He will place plenty of opportunities to serve other folks and live as a leader, in His greatness.

The “love passage” in 1 Corinthians,  gives us a picture of what God’s kind of love looks like. It says that love does not behave rudely. That means you don’t treat others as less than you, or as though you are greater than them. It is perfectly apparent when we serve out of love, rather than duty. To serve out of love is the greatness of Christ working in and through us.

And then this verse says that love is not provoked. That means that it doesn’t pop off in a fit of anger, or “lose it” with folks just because things don’t go your way.

Finally, love thinks no evil. This means that you’re not thinking the worst about people. You don’t assume they’ve got an agenda or have a desire to hurt you in some way. I read a study, several years ago that claimed we find something wrong with others seven times before we find one thing we approve of. You see, we don’t serve others as a result of their need, we serve others because we are simply following the way of Jesus.

Simply put, loving others means that we don’t just react or respond with what feels right at the moment. This takes some adjustment to our attitude., But if you really choose to serve others out of your love for the Divine and your love for others, you are truly great in the eyes of the Lord. Rather than just doing what feels good, you can learn to let the love of God that is in your heart come out. When you do, you’ll be a light for Jesus in ways you’ve only imagined!


– Choose to open your eyes and see how you can serve others today.
– Choose to act and react out of love, rather than selfishness.
– Choose to lead like Jesus and experience the blessing found in service.


–AChuck

Likeable People Be Like…

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This is the first weekday that I’ve shared another author’s work on my BLOG. When I read this incredible article from Jeff Haden, I was truly challenged. Please let me know what you think about… 11 Habits of Genuinely Likable People – How to make a great first impression — and a great lasting impression.


There’s a formula to making a great first impression: Smile, make eye contact, be engaging. But first impressions can also quickly lose their impact, especially when there’s no substance beneath the surface glow.

Being genuinely likable over the long haul is tougher. Building and maintaining great relationships, consistently influencing others in a good way and making people feel better about themselves, those are things relatively few people can do.

But you can, because being the most likable person in the room has nothing to do with your level of success, or your presentation skills, or how you dress, or the image you project. Being genuinely likable is all about what you do.

How can you be more likable, in a sincere and authentic way?

1. Give before you receive, knowing you may never receive.

Never think about what you can get. Focus on what you can provide. Giving is the only way to establish a real connection and relationship. Focus on what you can get out of the other person, and you show that the only person who really matters is you. OUCH!

2. Shift the spotlight to other people.

No one receives enough praise. That means one of the easiest ways to be likable is to tell people what they did well. Wait, you say you don’t know what they did well? Shame on you — it’s your job to know. Not only will people appreciate your praise, they’ll appreciate the fact you care enough to pay attention to what they do. And then they’ll feel a little more accomplished and a lot more important, and they’ll love you for making them feel that way.

3. Listen three times more than you talk.

Ask questions. Maintain eye contact. Smile. Frown. Nod. Respond — not just verbally, but nonverbally. That’s all it takes to show the other person he or she is important. When you do speak, don’t offer advice unless you’re asked. Listening shows you care a lot more than offering advice does because when you offer advice, in most cases, you make the conversation about you. Don’t believe me? Who is “Here’s what I would do” about you or the other person? Only speak when you have something important to say — and always define important as what matters to the other person, not to you.

4. Never practice selective hearing.

Some people — and I guarantee you know people like this — are incapable of hearing anything said by someone they feel is somehow beneath them. Sure, you speak to them, but that particular falling tree doesn’t make a sound in the forest because there’s no one actually listening. Charismatic people listen closely to everyone, and they make all of us, regardless of our position or social status or “level,” feel like we have something in common with them. Because we do. We’re all human.

5. Be thoughtful simply because you can.

I pulled into a service bay to get my oil changed. As I got out of the car, one of the techs said, “Man, those are nice wheels. Too bad they’re so dirty.” He smiled, just teasing. “I know,” I said. “My next stop is the car wash.” Then I went inside to wait. When I walked to my car to leave, the tech was just standing up, filthy rags in his hand. “It took some work, but I got ’em all clean,” he said. Every rim sparkled. Every speck of brake dust was gone. “Wow, that’s awesome, but you didn’t have to do that,” I said. “We’re not very busy,” he shrugged. “I had time. Figured I would make ’em look better.” Just then a car pulled into another bay so he hustled away, saying over his shoulder, “Have a good day.” That was years ago, but I still haven’t forgotten it. Instead of turning idle time into “me time,” likable people use their free time to do something nice — not because they’re expected to, but just because they can.

6. Put your stuff away.

Don’t check your phone. Don’t glance at your monitor. Don’t focus on anything else, even for a moment. You can never connect with others if you’re busy connecting with your stuff, too. Give the gift of your full attention. That’s a gift few people give. It alone will make others want to be around you.

7. Never act self-important …

The only people who are impressed by your stuffy, pretentious, self-important self, are other stuffy, pretentious, self-important people. The rest aren’t impressed. They’re irritated, put off, and uncomfortable. And they hate when you walk into the room.

8. … Because other people are always more important.

You already know what you know. You know your opinions. You know your perspectives and points of view. That stuff isn’t important because it’s already yours. You can’t learn anything from yourself. But you don’t know what other people know, and everyone, no matter who he or she is, knows things you don’t know. That makes other people a lot more important to you than you — because you can learn from them.

9. Choose your words wisely.

The words you use impact the attitude of others. For example, you don’t have to go to a meeting; you get to go meet with other people. You don’t have to create a presentation for a new client; you get to share cool stuff with other people. You don’t have to go to the gym; you get to work out and improve your health and fitness. You don’t have to interview job candidates; you get to select a great person to join your team. We all want to associate with happy, enthusiastic, fulfilled people. The words you choose can help other people feel better about themselves — and make you feel better about yourself.

10. Never talk about the failings of other people…

Granted, we all like hearing a little gossip. We all like hearing a little dirt. The problem is, we don’t necessarily like — and we definitely don’t respect — the people who dish that dirt. Don’t laugh at other people. When you do, the people around you wonder if you sometimes laugh at them.

11. … But readily admit your own failings.

Incredibly successful people are often assumed to have charisma simply because they’re successful. Their success seems to create a halo effect, almost like a glow.The key word is “seem.” You don’t have to be incredibly successful to be remarkably charismatic. Scratch the shiny surface and many successful people have all the charisma of a rock. But you do have to be incredibly genuine to be remarkably charismatic. Be humble. Share your screwups. Admit your mistakes. Be the cautionary tale. And laugh at yourself. While you should never laugh at other people, you should always laugh at yourself. People won’t laugh at you. People will laugh with you. They’ll like you better for it — and they’ll want to be around you a lot more.

I hope that you have been sharpened and encouraged as you read today’s post. Have a great day!

–AChuck

Why The Bible is a Big Deal

Around Sugar Hill Church we use the phrase “We believe the Bible is a Big Deal” a lot.

We say that because we truly believe that this book is a gift from the Divine as He uses it to give us direction, correction and inspiration. This Word of God is a living, breathing collection of 66 books that have been divinely inspired through the hearts and pens of men. It gives us the life manual and FAQ’s of our life.

The Word of God refers to all of God’s spoken revelation, including what came through His Son, the Lord Jesus. We have it recorded in written form in the Scriptures. If we read, hear and act on God’s Word, it will keep us from the cultural religion that brings sure confusion.

God’s Word is powerful to expose our sinHebrews 4:12-13

‘For the word of God is alive and powerful. It is sharper than the sharpest two-edged sword, cutting between soul and spirit, between joint and marrow. It exposes our innermost thoughts and desires. 13 Nothing in all creation is hidden from God. Everything is naked and exposed before his eyes, and he is the one to whom we are accountable.”

The text gives us at least three things about the power of God’s Word – The Bible:

1. GOD’S WORD IS LIVING.

Since God is the living God, and His Word cannot be separated from Him, that Word is a living Word. It can never be exterminated. As Isaiah 40:8 proclaims, “The grass withers, the flower fades, but the word of our God stands forever.” Since God is the author of life, His living Word imparts life in two ways.

– GOD’S WORD GIVES NEW LIFE TO PEOPLE IN NEED OF JESUS and

– GOD’S WORD GIVES RENEWED LIFE TO HIS PEOPLE OF FAITH.

If you are already a Follower of Jesus, you’ve gone through dry times when God seemed distant. God uses His Word to renew and revive us. David wrote,

“The law of the Lord is perfect, restoring the soul” Psalms. 19:7. The entire 176 verses of Psalm 119 unpack the benefits of the Bible. Over and over, the psalmist cries out, “My soul cleaves to the dust; revive me according to Your word”. “This is my comfort in my affliction, that Your word has revived me.”

It only makes sense that if the living God, has spoken to us in His written Word, then we should seek it like a treasure and consume it as a hungry man devours a meal. Being the word of God, it is both a word from God and a word about God.

Even though the Bible was written centuries ago, the Spirit of God still speaks directly to us – through it. It is never out of date or irrelevant. It speaks to the very issues that we face in our modern world. I would encourage you to read the Bible not in a random manner, but consecutively, from both the Old and New Testaments. You will find, as I have, that God will often use what you have read either that day or within a few days of reading it.

I believe in the depths of my heart that if you’ll commit – even just 5 minutes – in reading or listening to the Holy Word of God, your life will radically change for the good! Not because of the book itself, but because of the Author of the Divinely Inspired Word of God!

1. GOD’S WORD GIVES NEW LIFE TO PEOPLE IN NEED OF JESUS.

2. GOD’S WORD GIVES RENEWED LIFE TO HIS PEOPLE OF FAITH and,

3.GOD’S WORD IS ACTIVE.

We get our word “energy” from the Greek word translated “active.” It means that the Word is effectual. It accomplishes what God intends for it to do. As Isaiah 55:10-11 states, “For as the rain and the snow come down from heaven, and do not return there without watering the earth and making it bear and sprout, and furnishing seed to the sower and bread to the eater; so will My word be which goes forth out of My mouth; it will not return to Me empty, without accomplishing what I desire, and without succeeding in the matter for which I sent it.” God promises that it will accomplish His purpose.

GOD’S WORD IS SHARP AND PIERCING.

It is “sharper than any two-edged sword, and piercing as far as the division of soul and spirit, of both joints and marrow…” Using figurative language shows us that God’s Word is sharp and it cuts deeply, to the very core of our being. God’s purpose in cutting us is to bring healing, not to leave us wounded. Sin heals most completely, where it wounds most deeply; and gives life there only, where first it has killed.

I want to encourage you to treasure God’s Word above all human counsel! Read, study, and meditate on God’s Word. It will not do you any good if you don’t know what it says. Apply, trust, and obey God’s Word. My prayer is that you might experience the Bible. Not to fill your head with knowledge about the end times or theological arguments to support your favorite views. It is to change your heart and life!

Always study it with a view to obedience.

-AChuck

Accountability is NOT a 4-Letter Word

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Accountability is not a 4 Letter Word by AChuckALLEN


Everyone must submit to governing authorities. For all authority comes from God, and those in positions of authority have been placed there by God. – Romans 13:1

I was a ninth grader that had the privilege of starting on my high school football team. My coach, Bobby Johnson gave me a high honor of stepping into the role as our long snapper. I played in the day when you never came off the field. I played linebacker on defense, a fullback on offense and was the long snapper for punts and extra points.

I was given instructions from Coach Johnson that I received as if it were a gentle suggestion. Just in case you are wondering, nothing was subtle about Bobby Johnson. I took it upon my 15-year-old self to do the exact opposite of his instruction. It seemed so right to me at the time. Needless to say, it was a disaster and I ran the steps of the stadium until I threw my guts up. Being accountable includes obeying your superiors.

I’ve also had plenty of opportunities to follow the direction of the Divine, gone the opposite direction and had, you guessed it, disastrous results.

Authority figures can be really hard to respect at times. Your dad might drive you nuts, your mom might not get how incredibly cool you are. Your teachers and coaches might come down on you pretty hard, or maybe you just feel like the folks in authority over you just don’t deserve your respect because of something they did. Maybe they seem out of touch. But the Scriptures give us no pass on accountability.

Following direction and being under authority isn’t for the faint of heart. It can be one of the hardest things you do. It takes character, grit and a lot of positive attitude adjustments to respect those you are accountable to. But, we’re challenged in today’s Scripture to respect and be accountable to those in authority over us. The Scriptures never tell us to respect those who get you or those who really seem worthy of your respect. It tells us to respect those in positions of authority. Period!

Respect means not trashing them behind their back. Respect means choosing to display a good attitude even when you don’t understand or agree with a decision or order. Respect means responding to those over you with the Divine’s love, whether you think that they deserve it or not.

Push yourself to speak well of those in authority over you. Choose, with great intentionality to love them, even when they feel unloveable. Choose to be a person of character and respect the people in authority over you.

When you do, you will discover that God will bless you in a way that makes no sense in your humanity, but perfect sense in God’s divinity.

–AChuck

 

AChuck’s Pigskin Picks

This Saturday’s College Pigskin Picks for September 16, 2017. Last week I went 4-2 to get me back to .500. I’m 6-6 on the year. Here you go:

TENNESSEE over FLORIDA

LSU over MISSISSIPPI STATE

SOUTH CAROLINA over KENTUCKY 

CLEMSON over LOUISVILLE

BAYLOR over DUKE

NOTRE DAME over BOSTON COLLEGE

AND…

GEORGIA over SAMFORD by 42

Happy College Football Day!

–AChuck

4forFRIDAY with AChuck 09.15.17

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Each Friday I offer up at least 4 recommended reads, listens, learnings, gadgets or reviews. These are not necessarily faith-based or church-related but they each have encouraged or helped me in some way. I trust that they might do the same for you! Please feel free to leave your comments or share this 4forFRIDAY!


  1. A Great, Short Read from Jon Acuff: “How to be a Casino”
    This is a GREAT READ from one of my favorite writers and bloggers, Jon Acuff. The best way to give you a short description is to use his first few sentences:
    “Want to hear a conversation I’ve had a few dozen times?
    Here it is  – Friend: I’m going to get in shape.
    Me: That’s awesome! How are you going to do it?
    Friend: I’m going to run. Me: Do you like running?
    Friend: No, I hate it.

  2. An Oddly Encouraging APP for Personal Quietude and Meditation: CALM
    I have found this APP to be super helpful for those of us that need quietude to focus well. I always include  Scripture and prayer in my meditation, but this is a hugely helpful app that helps set the tone for personal quietude.

  3. A Hilarious and Far too True Comedy Video from John Crist
    I’ve suggested this guy before I promise you that you’ll laugh and you’ll wonder if it is appropriate to watch! Do not miss this You Tube sensation.

  4. A Challenging Read: Humble Inquiry by Edgar H. Schein
    Communication is essential in a healthy organization. But all too often when we interact with people—especially those who report to us—we simply tell them what we think they need to know. This shuts them down. To generate bold new ideas, to avoid disastrous mistakes, to develop agility and flexibility, we need to practice Humble Inquiry. Ed Schein defines Humble Inquiry as “the fine art of drawing someone out, of asking questions to which you do not know the answer, of building a relationship based on curiosity and interest in the other person.”

And a Quote that I am Pondering from John F. Kennedy “The world is very different now. For man holds in his mortal hands the power to abolish all forms of human poverty and all forms of human life. And yet the same revolutionary beliefs for which our forebears fought are still at issue around the globe — the belief that the rights of man come not from the generosity of the state, but from the hand of God.”


Happy Friday! See you Sunday Morning at Sugar Hill Church at 9:30, 11:00 and Streaming Live!

–AChuck

What Should I Do?

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The number one question I hear from the folks that write, call, text or seek counsel from me is “WHAT SHOULD I DO, OR WHERE SHOULD I GO?


This article has been written as part of the 1st30. A series designed for college freshmen, and regular folks like me and you!

I’m more confident than ever that the Divine doesn’t play hide and seek with His design and destination for your life. The challenge seems to be in the hearing AND answering His voice. Before you check out on me, know this. What I am writing about is written from a first-hand experience.

I recall Terry Herald asking me if I had ever considered serving the local church in vocational ministry. Terry was instrumental in my journey. It’s funny as I look back on it. He saw in me what I had not seen in the mirror. The next thing I knew, I was sitting with a Personnel Team considering a role as one of the staff members at a large church. My first answer was NO THANKS!

I couldn’t imagine making a salary that low. I was told to pray about the offer and the truth is, that I never did. I simply said no. That’s when I started a journey that I do not want to replay. I began a journey that was ridiculously similar to Jonah’s journey.

Jonah was told by the Divine to go to the godless city of Ninevah and preach the message of the Holy God of Israel. Like me, he said, no thanks! So, he caught a boat going the opposite way. You know the story. The storms came, the boat was sinking, the lives of Jonah, the sailors on his boat and the other boats on the sea were in dire need of the storm to cease.

I didn’t experience a storm on a sea. I experienced a storm of financial, relational and familial disaster. Everything I touched lost money when they had been such great deals before “NO.” I had relationships fall off the boat and had family challenges that felt as though the waves were drowning me. I was experiencing the storms from inactive obedience.

I knew at the age of 15 that I was to serve the church and surrender my life to the Gospel Ministry. But my goals were all financial. I wanted money and I sought after fame. For a season, the Lord allowed my disobedience. Time after time He sent warning shots across my bow, only for me to ignore them…or worse, head in the opposite direction – sound familiar?

Here is the lesson. You can determine what it might mean in your life.

The calling of the Divine is no greater to vocational ministry than it is to real estate, law, military or insurance. You see, I was knowledgeable about what I was supposed to do, but I delayed in the response that He demanded. He was requiring Active Obedience from me!

Like Jonah, I tried to throw off the extra weight, blame something else or hide from the Divine. And, like Jonah, I failed miserably. Jonah finally said, “it’s me.” I was in a position that demanded change and like Jonah, I said Lord, it’s me. I’m sorry.”

You see, Partial Obedience or Delayed Obedience is Total Disobedience.

You can be sure that total disobedience will lead to heartache, sorrow, and failure. I experienced all of that first-hand.  The good news is that upon my answering the direction of the Divine, He wrapped His arms around me and warmed my soul with the affection of the perfect loving Heavenly Father.

If you are wondering where to go, or what to do, here are four steps to help you avoid the “Jonah Syndrome.” I would have definitely obeyed the first time looking back all those years ago.

  1. Don’t just pray – hush and listen. The voice of the Divine is Waterford Crystal clear when we spend the right amount of time with Him.
  2. Seek Godly counsel that has nothing to gain from your decision and prayers.
  3. Build a Christ-honoring routine into your daily life. When we experience Scripture, prayer, gratitude, and quietude within our daily routine we are prone to hear and respond to the Direction of the Divine!
  4. Don’t walk timidly into the direction of the Divine, run boldly. I’ll guarantee you that He will be cheering you on!

The end of Jonah’s story is that he turned around after spending a few days in the Big Fish Hotel and ran to Ninevah, where every person in the city turned to God. In my case, I’ve been part of some of the most amazing things since turning around and running to God. I am still prone to wander, as the old hymn states, but I am quick to return. And when I do, He is always there, with a fresh direction and endless grace.

Seek the GPS of the Divine Today!

–AChuck



This article has been written as part of the 1st30. A series designed for college freshmen, and regular folks like me and you!

Death to Selfie

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Here’s a thoughtIf you have more pictures of you than anything else on your Twitter, Facebook, Instagram or Snapchat feed, you might have a problem!

I’m a technology junkie. The thought of a $1000 iPhone is exciting to me. I love all that technology allows us to experience. Wait for it…Here’s the big BUT!

But, we have become so enamored with building our personal platforms and pandering for likes, shares, re-tweets, and emojis that I am now writing to people like you talking about people like us!

It might not come as a huge surprise to many, but prolific selfie takers rate pictures of themselves far higher than they do of those taken by other people.

A study published in the journal Social Psychological and Personality Science asked 200 students to take photos of themselves they would happily post online. The researchers then asked the students to rate photos of themselves on a scale of 1-7 for attractiveness. Another group of students was also asked to rate the photos for attractiveness and likeability.

Both groups were asked questions about their own selfie-taking habits. The study found that people who took the most selfies tended to rate themselves as about 4.5 out of seven for attractiveness and five out of seven for likeability. Non-selfie takers rated their own images as being 3.5 for attractiveness and four for likeability.

By comparison, other people tended to rate the images of frequent selfie takers at around three for attractiveness and four for likability. Dr Daniel Re, a researcher at the University of Toronto who led the study, said: ‘They seem to be aware that people don’t like seeing a bunch of selfies of others, but when you ask people who hate selfies to rate their own selfies they rate them really high—almost as if they’d forgotten what they just said.’ 

The world, it seems, is much vainer than we could have imagined – there were more than 24 billion selfies were posted on Google’s servers last year. That’s just Google!

Google’s research shows that more than 200 million people upload images to the application each month who are responsible for an extraordinary 24 billion selfies.

This is only likely to be a fraction of the true number of selfies snapped by smartphone users in the past 12 months – Google only counted images uploaded to its Photos app. It will not include selfies kept on Apple’s iCloud, posted to Facebook, Snapchat, Twitter, and Instagram.

According to some estimates, there were more than 21 million selfies uploaded to social media each week, but Google’s figures suggest the cult of selfie taking has grown even further.

As a society, we are consumed with a narcissistic desire to be friended, liked, shared and retweeted, all while we have poverty, disaster relief, racial tension, civil unrest and global terrorism in our backyards.

I am embarrassed at my addiction to social media and the attention that I attempt to secure for myself. Especially when compared to efforts to use the very same medium to serve the world in truth and sacrificial love…whether it attracts more likes or not! My personal inventory leaves me far short of all the good that I could use this medium for.

Okay, rant over! Time for a SELFIE POST WHILE READING MY BIBLE!

–AChuck

Pin the Tail on the Relationship 


Pin the Tail on the Relationship by AChuckAllen

Have you ever been blindfolded? Maybe you were blindfolded while playing a game at youth group, or a friend’s birthday party as a kid. Being blindfolded is hard because you can hear everyone, but you can’t see what’s going on. This can lead you to trip over a chair or run into a friend simply because you can’t see where you’re going. It’s like pinning the tail on the donkey. If you aren’t careful, you might pin the tail on your date!

Have you ever thought about the fact that a lot of college students approach dating blindfolded? Many people are into dating just for the fun. They might take the time to get to know the person they’re dating. They just assume since the person they’re dating is good looking and gives them goosebumps, the relationship is meant to be. Before they know it, they’ve jumped wholeheartedly into a relationship with someone they hardly know. Dating blindfolded like this can bring disastrous results.

Here are a few things you should find out before jumping into a relationship with someone. I really trust that this might save you a ton of heartache!

Do they love God? This should be a deal-breaker for you. If the person you’re dating doesn’t love God and challenge you to get closer to God, run away. You are heading towards relationship disaster.
Do they value what you do? Find out if your values are compatible. If you like spending time with family, and your date doesn’t, you’re heading towards relationship disaster.

What’s their drama level? Are they in crisis mode in their life? And you like things more low key? Then be warned, you’re heading towards relationship disaster.

What do others think? Do your parents like this person? Your best friends? The people that know you the best can often warn you about relationship blind spots. Don’t forget to pay attention to those who know you best.

Have you given the relationship to God? Have you asked God if this is the right relationship for you? If you don’t get God involved in your relationships, you are certainly headed towards relationship disaster.

 It’s easy to get wrapped up with all the emotions and excitement that come with a relationship. Many times all these emotions can lead you to forget about God. However, a meaningful relationship should always reflect your walk with Jesus.

A relationship should not pull you away from Jesus. If you start dating someone and realize that you’re coming to church less and less, you need to realize that you’re dating blindfolded. Your relationship has become all about you and God has taken a back seat in your life. Your relationships should be pushing you towards God, not away from him. If the relationship you’re in is pulling you away from God, it’s time to seriously re-evaluate the relationship for any areas where you might be dating blindfolded. 

Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need. Matthew 6:33