Chatter by ACHUCKAllen
I hear the same answer to this question repetitively – How are you? The answer? “Busy.”
There are very few exceptions. I hear it at church, in the office, from friends, colleagues, and well…most everybody.
When I dig a bit further, I find two things that are commonalities in the weary, overextended, exhausted and frustrated:
Im sure that are plenty of subcategories in the chatter and the clutter, but they seem to always be at the genesis of the anxiety, fear and frustration discovered in our overachieving and expectant culture.
Let’s tackle chatter today. I’ll be back tomorrow with clutter.
By chatter, I mean conversations that lead to more frustration and purposeless hours of whining and blaming. Chatter comes in several forms:
- Blaming. It’s so easy to spend precious hours of our lives agreeing to blame anybody but the folks we are chattering with.
- Gossiping. Everyone loves a good story, whether it has any validity or not. The more dark or juicy the story, the faster and passionately shared the story gets.
- Whining. We all have a story. We all have stories that include heartache, failure, weakness or familial challenges. Grow beyond them instead of wallowing in them.
- Negativity. I prefer to think of this category as sideways problems. This negativity usually includes the never-ending pointing out of problems and rarely includes any solutions. It can also be in the form of scarcity. In case after case of hearing these folks, scarcity is pretty common. It leads us to share how we cannot ever have what we want and we bellyache about our assumed scarcity. As I’ve heard a few thousand times, O, PLEASE!
- Closed door extra meetings. This method of chatter is the worst of all. It seems to always happen in the form of meetings after the meetings. Second guessing, false agreement, and passive aggressive conversations are always a part of that meeting. I’ve learned an exceptional way to deal with this chatter – SILENCE EQUALS AGREEMENT!
The solution to this chatter is STOP IT & GET OUT OF IT. If you are the guilty party, realize that you are creating an unhealthy and life-depriving poison. If you are the leader being roasted or drawn into the chatter, step away and determine that after one warning, you make the hard call and remove the chatter that is robbing both you and your organization of direction, purpose, clarity and mission. The fastest way to bring your leadership to a screeching halt is to be a part of CHATTER.
Joy suckers and time robbers remain in a constant state of chatter. Anybody can be a chatterbox. What be anybody?
In a world filled with endless chatter, choose to make your words count for good. You never have to regret speaking the truth, taking the high road and assuming the lowest position.
Plan your escape route and get out of the chatter.